Whose phone number is this?

The first 6 years were not perfect, but they were perfect for me.  We laughed together, cried together, and were best friends.  We loved hard and, unfortunately, we fought hard, too.  But we always made up.  And we read the bible together.  We were both determined that this relationship was going to go the distance.  And I believed it.  We traveled to many places.  Had wonderful vacations.  We even bought our dream house together.  It was in a picturesque neighborhood, 3500 sq ft, and gorgeous.  From the outside looking in, we had the perfect life.  Then I had to have a minor surgery that had me out of work for about a month.  John would call me as soon as he got off work.  Until one day he was 15 minutes late calling me.  I thought that was odd, but his explanation seemed realistic, and I had no reason in the world to doubt it.  He came home and left his cell phone on the kitchen counter and took a nap.  I was cleaning the kitchen and noticed he didn't have his phone plugged in to charge.  I plugged it in, and it lit up, showing his recent calls.  Come to find out, his explanation for calling me late didn't add up.  Turns out he had a 37 minute conversation with someone before he called me.  Someone whose phone number I didn't recognize....hmmmmm...Now I'm wondering.  I looked it up in the phone book, unlisted.  I paid $9.95 to an online company for a "reverse lookup" of the number.  Turns out it was someone we worked with.  Someone I had NO REASON to think could EVER in a MILLION YEARS come between us.  After all, she was married, too, she worked on our shift with both of us, and she could see, just like everyone else how happy we were.  There was NO WAY this was anything fishy.  I asked him about it.  He told me he talked to her about someone else, and he didn't tell me because he knew I would "get mad."  Ok, again, no reason to doubt.  Then the many lies began..........

How did this happen to the "Perfect Couple?" My first posting...

My blog is a blog about SURVIVAL, HOPE, and, most of all, LOVE.  I have never written a blog, but I feel I have a story to tell.  And I feel I have a lot to share--information that countless others can benefit from.  I am no psychiatrist or therapist reading from a book.  I am a normal woman, normal PERSON for that matter, that is working on forgiving the ultimate betrayal.  Although I haven't reached the peak of forgiveness, I am constantly striving to get there.  


In a nutshell, we were the perfect couple, then he cheated on me.  This blog will take you on this journey with me.  I want to help other women, and even men, by showing them that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.  Ah, yes, it's cliche, and overused, but when you are struggling and trudging through the depths of a betrayal by your Soul Mate, you feel nothing if not all alone.  Let me start from the beginning...


My husband and I were the couple everyone wanted to be.  We work together, and from the beginning of our relationship in June 2000, we always heard things like, "I wish I had a love like you two have!"  Or, "Seeing the two of you gives me hope of finding that same love one day!"  Or, my favorite, "You two are so perfect for each other--you are so lucky you found each other.  The LOVE OF A LIFETIME!"  Yep, we were the couple everyone envied.  Our co-workers, our family, and our friends.  And I took great pride in that.  Especially since I had longed for it my whole life, until I met him.  We will call "him" John.  John was everything I had ever wanted in a man.  He was the usual, you know, the whole shallow ideal of tall, dark, and handsome.  But he was also so much more than that.  He made me laugh, he made me feel safe, he made me want to achieve and believe...he was truly my Prince Charming.  My Soul Mate, in every sense of the word.  As I was to him, or so he said.  He would tell me things like, "I've prayed for you my entire life."  Or his deceased grandmother is who brought us together.  Wow, I couldn't believe my relationship was the product of such a Higher Power!  And I really believed it.  To the core of my being, to the deepest depths of my love-drenched heart, I truly believed it!


Next post, I will talk about the wonderful times we had, and how it started to slowly fall apart....